How do i know when to quit on attempting to win back my partner?

we lived together for 15 yrs. and have a daughter 18 who is with her. We made a plan to remigrate to our country, i went first and while I was in my country she decided to leave. I returned to find out what happened but she refuses to se me. What baffels me is that I treated her so well, bought her flowers and presents, demonstrated my affection, did almost everything in the house and give her liberty to go off on her own. Now she makes me out as the worst person even acused me of sexual advances or attemps-i am not certain which - on our daughter.

I don′t know if she is in her right senses because she has done some pretty weird stuff eg. once she took me to buy a birthday gift, after searching for 2 hrs. she bought a gift for her friend who was with us but she did not buy me anything.

How do i know when to quit on attempting to win back my partner?
Sounds like menopause.
Reply:She's lost her damn mind and you still wanna be with her?? Oh dear god, don't tell me you lost your mind too??
Reply:I think obviously something happened a while ago and she doesn't look up to you anymore. It seems like she's deeply offended with you for something that she thinks you might have overlooked. Did your departure hurt her? Some women are like that. Did she assume you would provide her with a "better life" or something and you didn't keep your promise? Maybe she didn't like being left in your country. Are you back at the same place you were supposed to leave? Maybe she's still waiting, man. Maybe she feels like she irreversibly missed out.

It will be even harder to win her back if she is with someone. If not, then I think you have a chance...
Reply:Suggest you both seek counciling.

You can also try reading marrital relationship books in order to learn how to communicate better



But from what little I can read it appears she is making you out to be the bad guy because you are unable to meet the 5 basic "needs " she has as your partner. By villifing you she is hoping to get a fresh start. chances are if she is going to that length your not going to have much success winning her back.



Work on your self esteem. read books on how to communicate with people like 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Smart Love can help you do a personal assesment and find out if your even compatable with her.

Who knows this may be a blessing in disguise, with a more compatable woman waiting right around the corner once you end the relationship.



BUT you really need to address the sexual issues she is claiming agains your daughter. this could lead to criminal prosicution and jail time as well as seriously hamper your ability to function in society if she can substantiate the charges.
Reply:seems like you need to let go just because you have lived together for 15 years does not mean anything
Reply:Are you serious? Stay away unless you want to wind up in jail from her false accusations...it doesn't take much. If she's not in her right senses then why would you A) want her back, and B) trust her not to screw you?
Reply:Too complicated for a simple answer. You should ask her to go to counseling, and get this straightened out. Especially the allegations of abuse. That alone could ruin your life. Good luck.
Reply:if you love her, and are sure that's who you want to spend the rest of your life with, DON'T GIVE UP!

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