How can you tell if a woman is lesbian or bi?

My therapist is always flirting with me and winking at me. She giggles a lot and even implied if it was not against the rules she would go for it. I am thinking of pursuing this but not sure. I would have to quit therapy with her so I have to be pretty sure. We are having a hard time right now because we are aurging a lot. The sexual tension in the room makes me nervous at times. she used to hug me every session and even gave me flowers for my birthday. the strange thing is we have never discussed her sexuality but she has admitted she feels a special connection with me. Maybe it is just transference but this happened almost immediately. The first session I felt in sync with her. She winked at me by the second. I hugged her on the third session and she hugged me by the fourth. What does everyone think?

How can you tell if a woman is lesbian or bi?
I'd say start by looking for an other therapist...

Seems to me that you could get to a point were you are not going to her to "work on your problems" but just to see her and that can't be good...

If after that you could date her? I don't know really...it depends if she really is interested of course...

But I'm more worried about the fact that she does know a lot about you and you actually don't know very much about her...

Could become a very unequal situation...

Good luck in making the dicision that is best for you!
Reply:Has she got the lesbian tattoo?



Or go to the local library and look for her name in the Lesbian Register of [your country].

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Reply:Get a NEW therapist honey!!!
Reply:There's a power dynamic here that makes this abuse. No matter how you think you feel about her, she has already crossed the boundary and broken the bond of trust...not to mention the legality of her position. She has already done some things and put you in a position that make her peers take away her credentials.

Even if there is an element of transference, she should have refered you elsewhere immediately is she any kind of professional.
Reply:ask her....
Reply:If you like her, go for it. Does she know that you like other girls? I suggest getting another therapist if you start a relationship with her. You might not be as honest to your significant other as you would your therapist, which means you couldn't express how you feel about your romantic life as easily if you were talking to that VERY person. (For example, I had a boyfriend who I found to be repulsive. Told that to my friend, not him.)
Reply:I think you are asking for trouble and ought to consider a new therapist.



My two cents.
Reply:I think you need a new therapist
Reply:Oh my goodness! IF what you say is true, this is NOT normal behavior for a therapist. This is disgusting. Like everyone says, FIND another therapist. If she's done this to you, she's done this to other patients as well! GET OUT of that situation! I'd even report her, but of course, she'd probably deny everything. There is too much abuse going on between therapists or doctors and their patients! A therapist is supposed to be someone you can trust. You don't meet a potential partner by being their patient! You should meet people in other places.
Reply:This behavior is very inapropriate. She can be fired or disbarred from practice if you made a complaint. You are seeing a therapist for YOU, her personal life should not even be a part of the "therapy." Her behavior is not helping you at all. You need to find a new therapist and then make a complaint about this person to whatever association her "therapy" is in.
Reply:Ifshe has a pubic hair in her teeth, thats how I know.
Reply:* You can't just ask and get a new therapist